Monday, 2 April 2012

Why I love Older Men

Brad is 11 years older than Angie
When I was in my early 20's,(don't guess my age)my dad always said,"these small boys wont take you anywhere.They would just use and dump you.Besides,they aren't ready to settle down.Ït's not like I was dating any small boy.As a matter of fact,my then boyfriend was 9 years older than i was(He wasn't married).I was so comfortable around him as he led me on a journey to self discovery.

He was my mentor,friend,brother,father and everything you could think of.He made me believe all men were"faithful".He never cheated(for real).I tired all the tricks in the book to catch him because he felt too good to be true.
BUT,he was too controlling.Didn't let me out of the cage.One fateful day,he left the cage door slightly open,and I flew.I flew away so far that when he found me,he couldn't recognize me.I was no longer the dove he knew me to be(according to his expectations)I was now an owl.
Jay z is 12 yrs older than Beyonce
  The thing with younger men is(when I say younger, I mean men who are not emotionally and financially stable to get married),a 26 year old girl is probably ready to settle down,have kids bla bla bla..while her male counterpart of that same age bracket is ready to keep 5 girlfriends,club hop and follow lilwayne on twitter(lol).He has no plans to settle down,talk less of marriage.He just wants to have fun.Except in very rare cases or with the intervention of TB Joshua,that guy would just be with you for a while,and dump you for a younger girl.
So,why waste time when you know,you aint going no where?
The older guy(probably mid 30's) has played life until life has started playing him.He is tired of the different women every night,he has probably seen it all.Its not about beauty now,he is fascinated by the character of whomever he hooks up with.He needs to get married.He sees the beauty in companionship and children.

At this point in time,he needs a lively lady, who makes him laugh(coz he's already bored ).Don't get me wrong,there are still some(hot heads)who would play till they drop.(I no send those ones jor).
Why do most ladies go for older men? Security.I don't think its just about financial security here.I mean,knowing your heart ,family and bank account(ofcourse na)is secured goes a long way in making a woman happy.On the downside,these men are too controlling.I wont mention names,just do a background check on all younger ladies who are married to older men.But,as a friend said Ï'd rather have a controlling older man as a husband,than a cheat,selfish and insensitive man who lets me fly".I think its a small price to pay for emotional stability.
No offence to guys in their teens and early 20's,but you just need to grow up some more.Its not your fault that you hop around from one lady to the other.You are just created to spread your wings at that age.
So,if I were to choose between the devil and the deep blue sea...but i'll just go with the deep blue sea.At least I could swim.


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19 comments:

  1. rubbish....i feel young gals dat prefer older men r just so insecured emotionally,financially,psycholgically...y nt enjoy ur life wit ur peer group...i really cantcomprehend y some ple stil blieve in such rubbish

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  2. rubbish....i feel young gals dat prefer older men r just so insecured emotionally,financially,psycholgically...y nt enjoy ur life wit ur peer group...i really cantcomprehend y some ple stil blieve in such rubbish

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  3. lovely writeup as usual.Emeh what do you mean by older men?Im guessing you mean single and more mature men.Im with you on that.What do i need small boys for?To break my heart and party afterwards?naaa

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  4. YY is 10 years older than I am.
    @manley, I dare say I am definitely not insecure, in anyway whatsoever. For me, it is based on compatibility. When I want to enjoy my peer group (which is really rare), I go find them and hang out. But for me tot be romantically involved with someone in my peer group has been mentally exhausting...shikena

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  5. Who said this is rubbish?what would my age mate offer me?sex?pls any lady dating her age mate is just wasting her time.unless she's just having fun.I would choose an older man anyday,any time.

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  6. y r ple in denial?u made a good point honeydame its all bot compatibility..if u meet an older guy and u guys click fine bt dont tell me if u click wic a yungerguy u wont stay in d relationship cos hes yung....some gals r just so into older men cos of wat dey stand to gain...nobody wants to start wiv a guy(young)..dey need ready made men...i really tink life is beta if u roll wiv ur peers..

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  7. "so pro-older men"15 October 2011 22:40

    ...i think pple find wat d want in different places among different age groups... i find mine in s'one 17 yrs older and am happy...

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  8. I can't date my peer.my current boyfriend is 15yrs older and I'm loving. It

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  9. So on point.dumping dt rat I call a bf to get me some mature dude .mennnnnnnnnnn

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  10. So on point.dumping dt rat I call a bf to get me some mature dude .mennnnnnnnnnn

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  11. So on point.dumping dt rat I call a bf to get me some mature dude .mennnnnnnnnnn

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  12. So on point.dumping dt rat I call a bf to get me some mature dude .mennnnnnnnnnn

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  13. So on point.dumping dt rat I call a bf to get me some mature dude .mennnnnnnnnnn

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  14. "On the downside,these men are too controlling.I wont mention names,just do a background check on all younger ladies who are married to older men.But,as a friend said Ï'd rather have a controlling older man as a husband,than a cheat,selfish and insensitive man who lets me fly".I think its a small price to pay for emotional stability."

    Emeh no oh! controlling, nah babes, it can be so many things, a controlling man wont let you be urself, he always wants you to fit in his own and never him in urs. Basically i pray everyday for a God fearing man, a gift from him and somebody btwn 5-10yrs my senior. #chikena

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  15. When a lady is still very young (teens & early twenties) it makes perfect sence to date their peers (2-4yrs difference) it builds them emotionally,you learn to speak up,there is much communication,less abuse etc

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  16. Age is bullshit....dis na excuse...d gurl na aristo...d tin in here is money...all ladies wld prefer 2 marry their age mate if they are still 26yrs n sum1 younger if they are above 30yrs as long as he has money...independent n all dat stuff. No go marry man way no go fit perform later in age.

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  17. It all abt getting d click u so much desire.age s jus a number u cn get younger dats vry matured n think rite.in all compatability is d oint

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  18. very tru write up.but beta date a younger guy than an older guy who just wont get it dat he is old and act his age but is a 'young guy wanna be'. dat wld b very toturing

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